Going back to one-at-a-time

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No offense taken, notice I said he’s *urging* me to finish stuff, not that he’s demanding or requiring me to. After he urged me to finish some stuff night before last (as we were laying down to bed) he sorta chuckled and said "you know you can do whatever you want, but it really makes you feel great to *finish* something once in a while instead of just *starting* things" he’s right, I have about 15 or 20 books that I’ve started over the last 5 years, really want/intend to finish them (various stuff, business, history, fun, etc) — so this summer I’ve been *finishing* books before I buy any more. I organized stash yesterday — I’ve got more stuff in there (designs, fabric, specialty fibers all neatly kitted by me/myself/I) than I realised. And honestly, between me you and the lamppost, when I see a design I *REALLY* like, that I want for myself or John or whatever, I buy it. My stitching-time has become more precious the last 3 years or so and I’ve become disinclined to do a lot of stuff I would have a few years ago. Now I’ve learned to be more selfish about what I stitch. and to my hobbies vs his hobbies == there’s no contest there. In fact, he’s so well trained (tongue in cheek tee hee hee) that when he gets something new, he immediately starts asking me what do I want. Honestly, I don’t want much… I have the things that are most important to me, John, my health, my leisure time, little worry about bills (we live modestly), my intelligence, and my own character (a work-in-progress). My mom says I’ve never been much of a "wanter", as a kid, we’d go shopping and I’d say "it sure would be nice to have *blank*" if I didn’t get it, no problem, I’d just go home and read a comic book or play w/ my dolls. I’ve always been pretty good at compromising and "gratitude is an attitude". Dear me, I’ve digressed a lot, but thanks for helping me to think about things this morning. BTW: before you start thinking I’m a *wildly* disillusioned bubble-head (grinning), I have a PhD in Biomechanical and Agricultural Engineering. I’m very used to competing and succeeding in a highly male-dominated and male-patterned environment (actually, I’m damned good at what I do). There aren’t a lot of women in my field(s) and one of the reasons I like rctn (and these OT discussions) is it give me a chance to think about stuff that I don’t "see" everyday. Okay, gonna go eat breakfast now, Susan in Indiana – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -DH is urging me to finish what’s on my WIPO list before I start anything else… No offense Susan, but I just LOVE statements like this. I recently went the LNS with my sister in-law who saw several things she wanted. Unfortunately, her husband would not *allow* her to buy anything else because she was still working on a peguin pattern (for 2 years, thank you). I’m telling you I almost came UNGLUED at this remark. The day my husband urges, forbids, or *allows* me to do/not do anything concerning MY hobbie is the day he will not buy one more lure until he catches a fish with the one he has, buys one bullet to go duck hunting with and wears out one shoe before using the other…Please!!! Again, I hope I haven’t offended you Susan because it certainly was not my intention nor was this the first time I have seen comments like yours. I say …"Stitchers Unite" and tell the world who *actually* does wear the pants in the family!! Lori (yadda, yadda, yadda)

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(McH1inVA) writes: So things aren’t done for Christmas. Like *that’s* never happened before! :)

I think I wrote that book!!! Denise Denise in Akron, Ohio X/USA/H2/X13/Y9/1D/XXX/0=/:-D~/L/G-/Wo/D/M/B/b/R+/S+/K-/E/Anthony Hopkins/Robert Naseef/cold pumpkin pie with whipped cream sprinkled with a sugar/cinnamon mix

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Signed All stitched out–

You may truly be. Perhaps you just need some time to unravel. Give yourself the space. So things aren’t done for Christmas. Like *that’s* never happened before! :) (At least that’s true in my case!) Helen I FINISHED the medieval picture … (Hallelujah Chorus being sung in the background)

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Dawn, yes this also happens to me from time to time..That is when I start another craft..only to come back to xstitch again.. At the moment I am quilting. But am ready to start another xstitich now. I miss it and enjoy it more than anything else I have tried Robyn – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, Anyone else have this problem? . But I just haven’t been able to cross-stitch for almost two months. This has never happened to me before. Dawn

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I go through stages all the time where I don’t want to look at another pattern, needle, piece of cloth, or floss. I have a number of hobbies so before I get too burned out on stitching, I’ll pick up a book and read the whole thing. Sometimes it takes a number of books before I’m ready to stitch, but it helps break the monotony of just doing one hobby all the time. I wouldn’t worry about going through slumps every once in a while… It happens to the best of us. Judy

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I’ve gone through a big slump with my French Cafe scene. I think it is because I just feel overwhelmed with it sometimes. What I’ve found that helps me (just recently) is doing little projects. I’ve been working on small ornaments and they go by quickly. Makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something. Amy Please check out my website at: http://www.geocities.com/heartland/ridge/7589/index.html NOTE: I just wanted to pass on some advice to people considering purchasing a computer through mail-order. Do NOT buy one from Royal Computer Inc out of City of Industry, CA. I recently did and had an awful experience. I tried numerous times to get in touch with them regarding my faulty computer and didn’t get a response until we sent an email stating that we were considering contacting an attorney. I just wanted to pass this information on so nobody else would have to deal with the same mess we’ve dealt with.

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(Fabrics2U) writes: I want to work on one until it is finished. I will probably stitch two at a time so I don’t get bored,

I am with Kim . At the moment I have 3 projects in a rotation. I don’t see myself getting any more done. In fact I know I would have had a least one happy dance this year if I stuck to just 1or 2 projects. Bear In every home ,in every heart the lights of friendship glow; And once again it’s time to greet the friends it’s nice to know Current projects : Zippys Favorite Flavor , Newburyport Sampler, Peaceable kingdom

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bored easily but I attached the Angel of Spring to the Gripit and vowed to work on just that and finish my PM Nativity. So, just two at a time for now, too. I bet you’re very proud and that the curtains look gorgeous! You’ll have to invite lots of ladies over for tea

<G I’m inviting everyone over for Christmas! And also, not doing a rotation will save money on extra scroll side bars <G Kim Fabrics2U All Gripit items 10% off during August & September! <http://members.aol.com/fabrics2u/gripit.html

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Hi all, Anyone else have this problem? I had been doing very nicely with a rotation until I started a Just Nan piece for a co-worker and friend who got moved to a different job. I guess I don’t want to finish it because then I think she’ll really be gone, but I mean she’s just in another building. But I just haven’t been able to cross-stitch for almost two months. This has never happened to me before. Maybe I’m just in a slump. At the rate I’m going I’ll be lucky to finish the Just Nan piece for Christmas. HELP. Signed All stitched out– Dawn

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Maybe I’m just in a slump

I went thru a 2 year slump and just now coming out of it. slowly but I am coming out of it. not sure what happened though. Tam

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I can recognize myself in this from when I was married to my ex. He used to make me write a shopping list and estimate how much things would cost. Then he’d give me that amount and I had to bring back the register tape. I can’t count how many times I estimated too low and had to cut things out so that the kids would have what they needed. I remember darning my underwear and bras to get another 6 mos out of them. God, was i pitiful or what? and why in heck did I ever stand for it? ::Shaking head in total amazement that I was such a doormat:: I had a neighbor once you felt the need to pilfer from the household budget so that should would "have some money". Unbelievable.b

We put up with it because they managed to make our self esteem so low we didn’t have any. Mine would write the odometer reading on the car each morning and I would have to account for every mile driven for the day. If I was even 5 minutes late getting home in the evening I had to have a very good, verifiable, reason. I spent countless hours in theraphy after my divorce before I realized it was HIM not me. My in-laws even told me to divorce him because they could see what was happening. One thing though – God gave me a new and wonderful DH to make up for it all. penguin

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I’m very used to competing and succeeding in a highly male-dominated and male-patterned environment (actually, I’m damned good at what I do).

*chuckle* When I first read this sentence my first reaction was "male-patterned" baldness! (; Teri ~~ who also worked numerous years in a highly male-dominated environment, plastics technology. Teri ~~ remove "lessspam" to email a reply http://www.craftsoft.com for the CraftSoft Embroidery Floss Color & Conversion Chart An emerald leaf pierces the crusty white mantle. Softly green, a bud lifts its head and opens Raising petals of alabaster satin to the sun. A snow rose blooms…

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I can recognize myself in this from when I was married to my ex. He used to make me write a shopping list and estimate how much things would cost. Then he’d give me that amount and I had to bring back the register tape. I can’t count how many times I estimated too low and had to cut things out so that the kids would have what they needed. I remember darning my underwear and bras to get another 6 mos out of them. God, was i pitiful or what? and why in heck did I ever stand for it? ::Shaking head in total amazement that I was such a doormat:: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I had a neighbor once you felt the need to pilfer from the household budget so that should would "have some money". Unbelievable.b

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I also do one project at a time. I wonder how many of us are out there that do that? I do design mine so pretty much don’t put myself into a shoppe where it would be harder. I don’t hit the shoppe until I have a total list of what is required for the "Next Project". Right now what I am doing takes up so much room and I have only a certain number of minutes per week to work on it right now. It will be awhile before I am ready again ,,, I used to have the luxury to stitch one hour a day. Kindred spirit,barbara – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – *MY* orderly cross-stitching brain only allows me to do one xstitch project at a time… much like it only allows me to do 1 stitch at a time. However…. I

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I had a neighbor once you felt the need to pilfer from the household budget so that should would "have some money". Unbelievable.b – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – No offense Susan, but I just LOVE statements like this. I recently went the LNS with my sister in-law who saw several things she wanted. Unfortunately, her husband would not *allow* her to buy anything else because she was still working on a peguin pattern (for 2 years, thank you). I’m telling you I almost came UNGLUED at this remark. The day my husband urges, forbids, or *allows* me to do/not do anything concerning MY hobbie is the day he will not buy one more lure until he catches a fish with the one he has, buys one bullet to go duck hunting with and wears out one shoe before using the other…Please!!! LOL!!! A hundred years ago, or so, I mentioned to my best friend, "Let’s go to the mall one of these days." (I don’t think they had malls then, but this is the re-make). She said, "I’ll have to ask Bob. But, he’s always liked you, so I’m sure it’ll be ok." Hello?!?!?!? I remember thinking, "Is this her husband or father?" Geesh. Lynn

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Susan, What a great attitude, and what a great DH. Congratulations and hope you continue to live long and prosper. Lori, I also go nuts when I hear women say "my husband won’t allow" or "my husband won’t let me" or "my husband doesn’t want me to…" . Rubbish, the women who say this are making the choice of allowing themselves to be dominated..OR, they are using the DH to make excuses and cop out for things they don’t want to do anyway, and don’t have the chutzpah to admit. Either way, they need to stand up for themselves as human beings with a mind, a decision, and an opinion. Used to hear the my husband won’t allow a fair amount of the time when I sold Avon. I always grinned, and questioned back jovially about their dh not allowing them to purchase deodorant, shampoo, moisturizer and other daily items. Usually got a regular customer in the end. Mind you, this was a 16 year old initially, and last sold when I was 25, now 42. Some just need a little help thinking about things for themselves. — Pam Thompson Women who strive to be equal to men lack ambition. remove gb.girl for e-mail – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – No offense taken, notice I said he’s *urging* me to finish stuff, not that he’s demanding or requiring me to. After he urged me to finish some stuff night before last (as we were laying down to bed) he sorta chuckled and said "you know you can do whatever you want, but it really makes you feel great to *finish* something once in a while instead of just *starting* things"

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came UNGLUED at this remark. The day my husband urges, forbids, or *allows* me to do/not do anything concerning MY hobbie is the day he will not buy one more lure until he catches a fish with the one he has, buys one bullet to go duck hunting with and wears out one shoe before using the other…Please!!!

YES!!! Mine knows better not to make any remarks because I can easily dive into Quicken and bring up HIS hobby expenses. I think couples should be mutually supportive! Di

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Susan, what does a PhD in Biomechanical and Agricultural Engineering do? Is it like cloning Dolly the sheep or those two calves that were cloned in Texas? Just curious, Angie from Texas

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LOL!!! A hundred years ago, or so, I mentioned to my best friend, "Let’s go to the mall one of these days." (I don’t think they had malls then, but this is the re-make). She said, "I’ll have to ask Bob. But, he’s always liked you, so I’m sure it’ll be ok." Hello?!?!?!? I remember thinking, "Is this her husband or father?" Geesh. Lynn

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Hi Kim, LOL!! I hear you! I could never understand the rotation thing. If I had all those project started, I’d never feel like I would ever finish anything! I’ve always just worked one project at a time (unless I have to stop and stitch a model) and I like that way. My reward? Choosing and starting my next project! ;) Pam Pam Kellogg Kitty & Me Country Crafts http://user.mc.net/~kmccraft/ – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m going back to one at a time stitching. I’ve got nine projects in rotation and just can’t get myself to do the rotation. I want to work on one until it is finished. I will probably stitch two at a time so I don’t get bored, but this rotation is getting ahead of me :-0 I look forward to finishing and hanging my Living room valences, and hanging the final hardanger curtain in my bedroom. (have to do the tabs for it) Then I want to finish The Kiss – I started that one a year ago and need to get the last 1/3 done. Kim Fabrics2U All Gripit items 10% off during August & September! <http://members.aol.com/fabrics2u/gripit.html

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DH is urging me to finish what’s on my WIPO list before I start anything else… 3 big things on there *Queen Street Alley *Arctic Santa done on navy aida (stocking) *Peaceable Kingdom (TW) so today I stash-organized, I really don’t need to buy stuff right now anyway — I’ve more than enough to stitch and have a small business that needs attention and money anyway. Susan – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -finished. I will probably stitch two at a time so I don’t get bored, but this rotation is getting ahead of me :-0 Oh Kim, last night I was thinking do I really need 9 in rotation? I get bored easily but I attached the Angel of Spring to the Gripit and vowed to work on just that and finish my PM Nativity. So, just two at a time for now, too.

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DH is urging me to finish what’s on my WIPO list before I start anything else…

No offense Susan, but I just LOVE statements like this. I recently went the LNS with my sister in-law who saw several things she wanted. Unfortunately, her husband would not *allow* her to buy anything else because she was still working on a peguin pattern (for 2 years, thank you). I’m telling you I almost came UNGLUED at this remark. The day my husband urges, forbids, or *allows* me to do/not do anything concerning MY hobbie is the day he will not buy one more lure until he catches a fish with the one he has, buys one bullet to go duck hunting with and wears out one shoe before using the other…Please!!! Again, I hope I haven’t offended you Susan because it certainly was not my intention nor was this the first time I have seen comments like yours. I say …"Stitchers Unite" and tell the world who *actually* does wear the pants in the family!! Lori (yadda, yadda, yadda)

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*MY* orderly cross-stitching brain only allows me to do one xstitch project at a time… much like it only allows me to do 1 stitch at a time. However…. I do also have 1 of several other stitcheries on the go… like a hardanger project, a quilt, a rather nice sweater on circulars, etc….. It always amazes me when I can outwit myself… ROTFL!!!!! I must say that I’m not overly attentive to pushy men either…. but I don’t just limit myself to one sex….. I’ve found almost as many women in my lifetime who also like to dictate. — Ellen (an occasional poster over the years) Thou shalt sit on a cushion and sew a fine seam, And thou shalt eat strawberries, sugar and cream. Mother Goose ICQ #126405 Elliot Lake, Ontario A Jewel In The Wilderness

: H is urging me to finish what’s on my WIPO list before I start anything :else… : :No offense Susan, but I just LOVE statements like this. I recently went the :LNS with my sister in-law who saw several things she wanted. Unfortunately, :her husband would not *allow* her to buy anything else because she was still :working on a peguin pattern (for 2 years, thank you). I’m telling you I almost :came UNGLUED at this remark. The day my husband urges, forbids, or *allows* me :to do/not do anything concerning MY hobbie is the day he will not buy one more :lure until he catches a fish with the one he has, buys one bullet to go duck :hunting with and wears out one shoe before using the other…Please!!! : :Again, I hope I haven’t offended you Susan because it certainly was not my :intention nor was this the first time I have seen comments like yours. : :I say …"Stitchers Unite" and tell the world who *actually* does wear the :pants in the family!! : :Lori (yadda, yadda, yadda)

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I’m going back to one at a time stitching. I’ve got nine projects in rotation and just can’t get myself to do the rotation. I want to work on one until it is finished. I will probably stitch two at a time so I don’t get bored, but this rotation is getting ahead of me :-0 I look forward to finishing and hanging my Living room valences, and hanging the final hardanger curtain in my bedroom. (have to do the tabs for it) Then I want to finish The Kiss – I started that one a year ago and need to get the last 1/3 done. Kim Fabrics2U All Gripit items 10% off during August & September! <http://members.aol.com/fabrics2u/gripit.html

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finished. I will probably stitch two at a time so I don’t get bored, but this rotation is getting ahead of me :-0

Oh Kim, last night I was thinking do I really need 9 in rotation? I get bored easily but I attached the Angel of Spring to the Gripit and vowed to work on just that and finish my PM Nativity. So, just two at a time for now, too. I bet you’re very proud and that the curtains look gorgeous! You’ll have to invite lots of ladies over for tea Diane

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